ENOUGH!

I have wanted to officially launch my coaching business for over a year. I have wanted to go live with my website for over a year. I have wanted to start a blog for over a year. I have wanted to put myself out there in a real way as a coach and as a creator for over a year. What took me so long? One four-letter f-word that I say all the time. No, not that four-letter f-word. The word I’m talking about is “fear”. I am filled with it. I have a fear of putting myself out there. I have a fear I won’t do it right. I have a fear that people will laugh at me. I have a fear they will criticize me. I have a fear that I will “get in trouble” for being a coach - that’s one of my irrational fears :). My biggest fear? That I will fail, give up, and let go of the dream.

So to avoid all those fears, I postponed my dream. I postponed all my potential. My potential to fail as well as succeed. My potential to change my life and to change the lives of others. My potential to realize a completely different version of myself and my life. All of that potential postponed but not forgotten.

Well today, as I write this post, I have decided ENOUGH! Enough postponing all my potential. Enough of postponing my hopes, my dreams, and all the things I have wanted to experience including inevitable failures. Enough already. It’s time to feel the fear that I feel every day (HINT: just because I haven’t done it doesn’t mean I don’t feel the fears) and do all the things anyway. If I’m going to feel free I might as well give myself to opportunity to feel passion and success. I want to feel what it feels like to go after something that scares the hell out of me but is everything that I’ve ever wanted. Now that feeling is worth experiencing all the fears.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we give up in advance thinking we’re saving ourselves pain when in reality we’re exchanging one pain for another? We exchange the fear of possibilities, good or bad, for the certainty of regret. It makes zero sense when you look at it objectively, but it’s really hard to be objective in your own head. Pro tip: That’s why a coach is so helpful :).

This is a behavior that as humans we do to keep ourselves safe. We are built the known quantity. We are built to stay in the cave where it’s safe and warm. We come by those fears and tendencies naturally as humans and some of us more so depending on how we were raised. Remember, we all come from somewhere. We are living now from where we came from. Our present is always influenced by our past and that’s hard-wired. To change that takes deliberate work on mindset. It requires thinking about what you’re thinking about and really analyzing the why’s and then making deliberate choices to think differently.

I made a deliberate choice today that enough is enough and I’m moving forward. I have no idea what will happen. The possibilities are infinite and isn’t that exciting!

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